In today’s dating world, the most popular way to meet new people is through an App. Some people refer to it as online dating. With so many different Apps, meeting new people has become increasingly easy. As with anything that has no real checks or balances, there are abuses. People do find love, but also get hurt. What should you do when you’re too hurt to love again after so much dishonesty and deceit?
We have previous talked about narcissism and psychopathic behavior. But, most of the time, it’s just someone is being dishonest.
It is our human nature to get excited about a new relationship, and then want to see everything through rose colored glasses. As a result, we pay less attention to red flags. This can be as sinister as the person who intentionally deceive you to get sex or even money.
Regardless of how long a relationship is, if you care deeply about the other person and the relationship ended because the other person was not honest, it could create a deep hurt. The reasons for the breakup can be many, but the most popular one is being unfaithful.
Now you feel too hurt to love again after so much dishonesty and deceit. What can you do?
Probably the two best things to do are below.
- Talk to someone close to you about how you feel. It’s always a good idea to talk about your feelings openly. Find someone who is compassionate and can offer you good advice. An outsider may give you a fresh eye. If you don’t want any of your friends to judge you, or don’t have a good friend who has healthy long lasting relationships, then talk to a professional relationship coach will be helpful. They can help you open up and lead you to the right mindset, so you can learn to have better relationships in your life.
- The other way to deal with your emotions is to find new hobbies that will occupy you time, so you can take your mind off being hurt. There is an old saying “time heals all wounds”. And yes, it is true. After going through a rough relationship, you may be too hurt to love again after so much dishonesty and deceit. It’s completely normal to feel that. Acceptance is the first step! Give yourself time to process and learn from the experience.
Unfortunately, some people try to immediately replace the lost person with a new one, without having spent some time to find yourself again. If you rush right into another relationship, and if that doesn’t work out, you’ll be even more miserable.
There is no easy answer or quick fix after being hurt by someone you cared deeply about. That is the cold reality, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never find love again. It also doesn’t mean that becoming guarded or jaded is the answer. The bottom line is: going all in on a relationship is a leap of faith, and with that there is always the potential of something not working out.
If you honestly feel after a period time that you will not be able to trust someone openly again, then maybe think of the alternative, do I want to spend the rest of my life alone?
The reality is that most people in the long run are generally not too hurt to love again after so much dishonesty and deceit. It just takes time to find yourself, and the odds are you’ll be a stronger and better person. It’s like the old saying “is the glass half full or half empty”. Even a bad experience can be a good learning experience if you have a positive mindset.
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